Being able to send out birth announcements for Eve means everything to us as we never got to do it for Lila. We knew that we wanted to somehow include Lila on them, but struggled for many weeks on what to say. For Mike and I, we are a family of four and only three of us get to be together, not including Lila seemed so wrong to us. If she were here, Evie's birth announcements would probably say something about her big sister Lila. So why did that have to change just because she is not here? Some people see this differently and feel that including Lila's name might take away from Evie in some sense, or make it more about Lila than Evie. And so the internal conflict began on what was the right thing to do for us and our girls? Mike made the comment that we have no idea how Eve is going to feel about Lila one day and how she will deal with the loss of a sister she never got to know? But what if having Lila's name on her announcement made her proud? What if we are looking at it as only being a possible sad or confusing thing, when in turn it might be a positive one? So with that thought concept we decided we needed to do something. I looked online for a while for the right wording on how to include Lila's name, but I just was not finding it. Lucky for us we have a photographer who took Eve's pictures that was amazing to work with. Once we told her our dilemma she suggested we include the Lila stone and maybe put something on the back of the announcement. The picture below is what we came up with. The whole front of the card is all about Evie and has a collage of pictures while the back has a special little picture of a Lila stone and says "Watched over by big sister." This is what worked for us and we hope we did right by both of our girls.