"If you know someone who has lost a child, and you're afraid to mention them because you think you might make them sad by reminding them that they died -- you're not reminding them. They didn't forget they died. What you're reminding them of is that you remembered that they lived, and that is a great gift."--Elizabeth Edwards

Jenny found this quote earlier this week and it stuck with us. I think that before Lila died, I would have been like this, afraid to mention a lost child to a parent. I had no idea how to deal with difficult losses like this. This quote says it perfectly, especially in our situation. When you are new parents, your baby is your life and is all you want to talk about. People should be coming up to us and telling us how cute Lila is and asking us if Lila is sleeping through the night yet. Even though our baby died, she still occupies our every waking thought. We are still parents and still want to talk about our baby, but I see how it can appear to be a radioactive subject to some. - Mike